Two things to remember before courting a woman. First, dating is different from courtship, although they are related. Dating can lead to courtship. Second, it is important to court one woman at a time. Finally, courtship is not a game but a preparation for marriage for the Catholic Church.
1. Dating is different from courting
Maybe one thinks that dating and courting are the same things, but actually, they’re very different. Dating is more casual, and he or she does not necessarily look for someone serious. Rather it’s just testing the waters and having fun, completely understandable.
Courting is based on the idea of eventual marriage. Okay, if one is just had a shiver up your spine reading the word, “marry,” I get it, it’s a big step. But courtship is really meant for those who are seriously looking for someone (Ivanovic).
2. You can only court one girl at a time
One can’t be courting three girls at one time. It will not work. If one girl would know that your courting other girls, the guy would lose all his chances. So it’s important to just focus one’s attention on the one girl he is courting. If she’s not compatible then the guy must end the courtship and start courting someone else. If he courting a bunch of girls at once, his not really genuinely trying to get to know each one as well….” (Ivanovic).
4 Top Strategies in Courting Women
1. Know the woman you’re courting: Do your homework. Do some background check before making your first move.
This is the most important part in courting. Before taking a move, you should know your woman very well in order for you to get some idea on how to get on with her. The important things that you should know about her include her family, religion, friends, and personal background (Suminguit 12 Dec 2012).
2. Always pay attention to details when you’re dealing with her. Women love rose petals sprinkled on beds. From little surprises to the opening of car doors, it’s the little things that women desire when they are being courted (Lovesujiery).
3. Court when you’re thinking of marriage.
Don’t play games with the woman you’re courting. Courtship is a preparation for marriage. Close your eyes and think about it. Can you see this woman being your wife? If so, then why not give it a try and court her. You should really only be courting someone when you’re considering the idea of marrying them (Ivanovic).
4. Persistence pays in courtship: Sustained and persistent efforts in wooing a woman can make her fall in love in the long run.
“Most women will fall in love to a guy that excels more efforts than those who are not. Efforts count more than anything that you can imagine. They are the weakness of women, the power of men. No matter how hard it will be, just don’t give up. Instead, excel more efforts.
Meet with her friends, or maybe her family. Visit her at home or go to a place she often visits. Love what she loves. Buy her flowers and chocolates without thinking that it is very crazy. Don’t you know that they love crazy stuff? It is just too cool for them.” (Suminguit 12 Dec 2012).
Catholic Church’s Teaching on Courtship
Courtship is always a preparation for the Church. It’s a period of discovery whether 2 mature people are compatible for a lifelong commitment in the sacrament of matrimony. The longer the period of courtship, the better is the discovery period for the couple. Usually, it takes 2 or more years to know who the person one wishes to marry. Courtship can be a short period with a definitive end. It ends either in an engagement or in the dissolution of the relationship (tradcatfem.com).
For the Church, building a chaste, holy marriage begins before one is married and the only legitimate reason for company-keeping is courtship, which is a preparation for marriage. Before embarking on a traditional Catholic courtship, both the man and the woman must ensure that they are both prepared, spiritually, financially, and mentally for marriage.
Catholic marriage will take place only after the period of spiritual, mental and financial preparation has been completed by engaged couples (tradcatfem.com).
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Lovesujiery (n.d.) “8 Ways women Want to be Courted by Men”. Babble. Retrieved from https://www.babble.com/relationships/8-ways-women-want-to-be-courted-by-men/.
Suminguit, R.J. (7 Dec 2012). “How to Court Your Girl in 5 Simple Steps”. BrighterYou: Advice for Love. Retrieved from https://brighteryou.wordpress.com/2012/12/07/how-to-court-your-girl-in-5-simple-steps/.
________ (n.d.) “Stages of a Traditional Catholic Courtship”. Traditional Catholic Femininity. Retrieved from https://tradcatfem.com/2017/07/27/stages-of-traditional-catholic-courtship/.
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