Is Beauty in the Eye of the Beholder?

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The famous quote (most probably by Margaret Wolfe) which says: “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder” is assumed to be true by many. But for sociologists, this quote may be partly true and partly false.

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In the commercial world of art, for instance, beauty does not depend in the eyes of ordinary people or viewers but in the eyes of the art critics and patrons who determine what is beautiful and what is not, what is priceless or cheap in the world of museums, auctions, and art exhibits.

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It’s true that art can be subjective. It depends on the beholder or the person who sees and evaluates a piece of art. And since each person has his/her own culture and notions of beauty which s/he learns from his/her own society, judgments on what is beautiful or not vary across various nations and nationalities.

But commercial art has its own subculture and notion of beauty where art critics and patrons reign supreme! These gatekeepers determine the standards of beauty and the price of art in the world of auction sales.

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Beauty as a Relative Concept

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The concept of beauty is relative in the social sciences, especially in cultural anthropology. For anthropologists, understanding what is beautiful or ugly is cultural. It depends on how a particular culture views beauty as a cultural category. What is beautiful in one country or society may be ugly for others. For instance, what is beautiful for the Ilongot tribe of a handsome and sexy man is one who has a long earring in his ears. The longer the earring, the more handsome or beautiful is the young Ilongot in this tribe. Each layer of the earring represents the number of people he beheaded or killed. The Ingot tribe practiced headhunting as part of their culture. When a member of their tribe died, the first thing the male Ingots would do is to behead people from other tribe.

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In urban societies, what actually creates or dictates to the public the type of beauty people must see and appreciate are primarily the print, broadcast, and social media. Advertising and marketing industries play an important role in shaping people’s mind on what is beautiful and what is not.

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In this case, it is often the white,  slim, extraordinary,  young, sexy, and other urban traits are projected as beautiful, and the black, the fat,  old, ordinary, and other “unmarketable” or  rural traits as ugly and undesirable.

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It’s about time to remember Wolfe’s famous quote: “Beauty is the eye of the beholder!” It is cultural and it depends on one’s cultural orientation and not by one that is dictated by the media and marketing industries!

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Is Beauty in the Eye of the Beholder?

eye-color-change-2852261_640

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The famous quote (most probably by Margaret Wolfe) which says: “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder” is assumed to be true by many. But for sociologists, this quote may be partly true and partly false.

mona-lisa-74050_640 (1)

In the commercial world of art, for instance, beauty does not depend in the eyes of ordinary people or viewers but in the eyes of the art critics and patrons who determine what is beautiful and what is not, what is priceless or cheap in the world of museums, auctions, and art exhibits.

art

It’s true that art can be subjective. It depends on the beholder or the person who sees and evaluates a piece of art. And since each person has his/her own culture and notions of beauty which s/he learns from his/her own society, judgments on what is beautiful or not vary across various nations and nationalities.

But commercial art has its own subculture and notion of beauty where art critics and patrons reign supreme! These gatekeepers determine the standards of beauty and the price of art in the world of auction sales.

guatemala-1971374_640

Beauty as a Relative Concept

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The concept of beauty is relative in the social sciences, especially in cultural anthropology. For anthropologists, understanding what is beautiful or ugly is cultural. It depends on how a particular culture views beauty as a cultural category. What is beautiful in one country or society may be ugly for others. For instance, what is beautiful for the Ilongot tribe of a handsome and sexy man is one who has a long earring in his ears. The longer the earring, the more handsome or beautiful is the young Ilongot in this tribe. Each layer of the earring represents the number of people he beheaded or killed. The Ingot tribe practiced headhunting as part of their culture. When a member of their tribe died, the first thing the male Ingots would do is to behead people from other tribe.

night-692261_640

In urban societies, what actually creates or dictates to the public the type of beauty people must see and appreciate are primarily the print, broadcast, and social media. Advertising and marketing industries play an important role in shaping people’s mind on what is beautiful and what is not.

girl-3033718_640

In this case, it is often the white,  slim, extraordinary,  young, sexy, and other urban traits are projected as beautiful, and the black, the fat,  old, ordinary, and other “unmarketable” or  rural traits as ugly and undesirable.

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It’s about time to remember Wolfe’s famous quote: “Beauty is the eye of the beholder!” It is cultural and it depends on one’s cultural orientation and not by one that is dictated by the media and marketing industries!

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Female Body Parts Men Find Very Sexy

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Introduction

Men fall in love with women for some reasons. It is not accidental. The first meeting may be accidental, but developing strong feelings for the other is based on their socialization or upbringing in the past. True love does not happen during the first encounter or date. It develops over time after one partner realizes the personality, values, attitudes, and outlook in life of the other. But it can begin with the first sight of the other. But the attraction is not primarily biological but social. A man can easily fall with a woman if it reminds him of some traits or experiences he encountered in the past. To some researchers, a man can fall in love with a woman if one or some of the following traits or acts are present during the first encounter.

1. Bone Structure that Resembles that of their Mother.

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This is known as “sexual imprinting” coined by researchers. Mothers’ presence and child care during formative years have a strong effect on men. The physical structure and image of the mother have a strong influence on men’s choice on the type of women they would fall in love with. Women who resemble in personal and physical traits with their male partners’ mothers can most likely get the attention of men they fall in love with.

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With regard to physical attributes, some research suggests that men would most likely fall in love with women whose bone structure resembles that of their mothers. Of course, this theory presupposes that this type of men had good nurturing experience with their mothers during childhood and formative years. If not, then men would fall in love with women whose bone structure resembles that of their surrogate mothers or women who took good care of them during childhood. The bone structure of the women during the first encounter or date would immediately remind the male partners of their mother’s image and physical presence. Most Japanese men love to be pampered by their mothers as part of their culture. Thus, they would most likely fall in love with women whose physical presence, such as similarity of bone structure, can remind them of their nurturing mothers.

  1. Low Waist-to-Hip Ratio

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Low waist-to-hip ratio (in which the waist is significantly narrower than the hips as more attractive than those with wider waists. Researchers at the University of Texas found that women with a good waist-to-hip ratio may subconsciously signal that a woman has good health and reproductive ability.

  1. Youthful Features

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A study from the journal Current Anthropology found that men from five different cultures showed a preference for females with youthful features like large eyes, a small nose, and full lips. The findings showed that men subconsciously seek out partners who are most likely to reproduce. Youthful features of women are related to their level of fertility and capacity to produce offspring.

 

Not all men, however, are attracted to youthful partners. This depends of the socialization and family experience of the partner. Men or women who are very close to their nurturing fathers or mothers tend to be attracted to more mature features of their partners. These are the kind of people who are looking for a “father or mother figure” in their romantic relationships to remind them of their nurturing experience during childhood and adolescence.

4. Long or Moderately Long Hair

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Women with moderately long hair or anything close to shoulder length as that looks feminine. However, there are men who fall in love with women with short hair. A person’s hair contributes a lot to the final appearance of the person. The hair has an aesthetic function. That’s why the beauty parlor business is attractive to women. A woman’s hair is often thought of as a defining feature of her femininity. Depending on the man’s wish list, a beautiful hair is an important women’s asset to get men’s attention. A long straight hair is usually attractive to men, although there are some guys who prefer a short one. Women do a lot of things on their hair to alter their looks and convey their personality to men.

5.Beautiful Eyes

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The eyes are the windows of the soul. Nothing attracts a man other than beautiful eyes, pair of blue, hazel or brown eyes are actually the killer, provides calm, comfort and warmth to the males. Contrary to popular belief, it is not the chest or bust as the number one female part that men find most attractive but the eyes. According to Cosmopolitan, men ranked the eyes as the top body part because no matter how different the taste can be—about hair, chest butt, legs, feet—every man can be disarmed with a sexy glance. The eyes are aid to be the window of the soul. The lyrics of the monster hit “For the First Time” by Kenny Logins captures the importance of women’s eyes for men who fall in time on the first encounter:

“For The First Time”

Are those your eyes, is that your smile
I’ve been lookin at you forever
But I never saw you before
Are these your hands holdin’ mine
Now I wonder how I could of been so blind

For the first time I am looking in your eyes
For the first time I’m seein’ who you are
I can’t believe how much I see
When you’re lookin back at me
Now I understand why love is…
Love is… for the first time..

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Don’t Worry while Waiting Your Turn in Life  

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The song of Diana Ross entitled “It’s My Turn” reminds us that we just have to wait for our turn to achieve what we want in life. Society has opportunity structure for us. We just have to wait for our turn. When it comes, we can be proud to say:

“…It’s my turn
To see what I can see
I hope you’ll understand
This time’s just for me

Because it’s my turn
With no apologies
I’ve given up the truth
To those I’ve tried to please

But now it’s my turn
If I don’t have all the answers
At least I know I’ll take my share of chances
Ain’t no use of holding on
When nothing stays the same….”

Yes, life is always in a state of flux! It can sometimes become cruel to us. It has its ups and downs. We have to wait for our turn to allow life to bring us up when we’re down. It rarely provides an opportunity for things we immediately want to address our problems. After a painful break-up, for instance, with a romantic partner, we immediately wish to find someone who is much better and loving than the person who causes us pain to stop the hurt inside our hearts. Or after being bullied by a person or group when we’re young in school, we wish to find power and support to depend  ourselves and assert our right! Or after a devastating defeat in a major contest or competition when we’re humiliated in front of a lonely crowd, we immediately want that the event could have been reversed and we be declared a sure winner!

Just Wait, Society has Opportunity Structure!

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But life does not work the way we want it to be. It has its own opportunity structure conditioned by social forces of society we’re living in. We just have to wait for our turn to be raised in the platform of success and public admiration! Jack Ma, one of the richest men in China and the founder of the Alibaba Group, was rejected many times by Harvard Business School for his applications. He encountered a series of failures in building his business empire but remained persistent and waited for his turn to achieve success! I also know a fine lady who underwent a series of frustrations with her former boyfriends and eventually married a decent and religious man. They are now living happily as a couple in the United States. Steve Jobs was also struggling before his innovative ideas became a reality. But it took years of patience and perseverance before his vision of Apple became a success!

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Waiting for society to give us the right opportunity does not mean being passive. While waiting, we have to do our part to prepare for the upcoming “break” society can offer us to succeed. Since society has its own opportunity structure, we have to prepare ourselves for the right “turn” society would offer us. If one is experiencing a failed relationship, he or she must do something to forget the past and move on to find the right partner in life! S/he must place himself/herself in situations which can allow him/her to interact with people who can offer him/her the right love and affection. So also with people who experience failures in business. They have to find ways and prepare for the next opportunity to come!

Waiting One’s Turn and Humility

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Waiting for our turn for opportunity to favor us and accept that there are things in life that we cannot immediately change requires a virtue called humility. People who encounter a series of problems  indicates a lack of humility. Recklessness is sometimes a fruit of pride and lack of humility and acceptance that we are just a cog in a big machine called society. Humility and right timing is the key in solving one’s problem and attaining success! And when society’s opportunity structure opens up again and offer us the road to success and happiness, we can bravely say:

“…It’s my turn
To see what I can see
I hope you’ll understand
This time’s just for me

Because it’s my turn
With no apologies
I’ve given up the truth
To those I’ve tried to please…”

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Christ says: “Do Not Worry, You are More than What You Eat”

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25 “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? 26 Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27 Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your lifea]”>[a]?

28 “And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. 29 Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. 30 If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith? 31 So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32 For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. 33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. 34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own” (Matthew 6: 25-34).

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What Female Physical Traits Men Find Very Attractive?

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Introduction

    Men fall in love with women for some reasons. It is not accidental. The first meeting may be accidental, but developing strong feelings for the other is based on their socialization or upbringing in the past. True love does not happen during the first encounter or date. It develops through time, after one partner realizes the personality, values, attitudes, and outlook in life of the other. But it can begin with the first sight of the other. But the attraction is not primarily biological but social. A man can easily fall with a woman if it reminds him of some traits or experiences he encountered in the past. To some researchers,  a man can fall in love with a woman if one or some of the following traits or acts are present during the first encounter.

     1. Bone Structure that Resembles that of their Mother.

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     This is known as “sexual imprinting” coined by researchers. Mothers’ presence and child care during formative years have a strong effect for men. The physical structure and image of the mother has a strong influence to men’s choice on the type of women they would fall in love with. Women who resemble in personal and physical traits with their male partners’ mothers can most likely get the attention from men they fall in love with. With regard to physical attributes, some research suggest that men would most likely fall in love with women whose bone structure resembles that of their mothers. Of course, this theory presupposes that this type of men had good nurturing experience with their mothers during childhood and formative years. If not, then men would fall in love with women whose bone structure resembles with that of their surrogate mothers or women who took good care of them during childhood. The bone structure of the women during the first encounter or date would immediately remind the male partners of their mother’s image and physical presence. Most Japanese men love to be pampered by their mothers as part of their culture. Thus, they would most likely fall in love with women whose physical presence, such as similarity of bone structure, can remind them of their nurturing mothers.

  1. Low Waist-to-Hip Ratio

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Fig 1. “Woman with Jewelry and Long Hair” by Marin (Image courtesy of FreeDigitalPhotos.net)

Low waist-to-hip ratio (in which the waist is significantly narrower that the hips) as more attractive than those with wider waists. Researchers at University of Texas found that women with a good waist-to-hip ratio may subconsciously signal that a woman has good health and reproductive ability.

  1. Youthful Features

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    A study from the journal Current Anthropology found that men from five different cultures showed a preference for females with youthful features like large eyes, a small nose, and full lips. The findings showed that men subconsciously seek out partners who are most likely to reproduce. Youthful features of women are related to their level of fertility and capacity to produce offspring.

    Not all men, however, are attracted to youthful partners. This depends of the socialization and family experience of the partner. Men or women who are very close to their nurturing fathers or mothers tend to be attracted to more mature features of their partners. These are the kind of people who are looking for a “father or mother figure” in their romantic relationships to remind them of their nurturing experience during childhood and adolescence.

   4. Long or Moderately Long Hair

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  Fig 3. “Close-up Shot of Beauty Woman in Designer Blue Top” by  Photostock (Image courtesy of FreeDigitalPhotos.net)

      Women with moderately long hair or anything close to shoulder length as that looks feminine. However, there are men who fall in love with women with short hair. A person’s hair contributes a lot to the final appearance of the person. The hair has an aesthetic function. That’s why the beauty parlor business is attractive to women. A woman’s hair is often thought of as a defining feature of her femininity. Depending on the man’s wish list, a beautiful hair is an important women’s asset to get men’s attention. A long straight hair is usually attractive to men, although there are some guys who prefer a short one. Women do a lot of things on their hair to alter their looks and convey their personality to men.

       5.Beautiful Eyes

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  Fig 4. “A Portrait of Attractive Asian Woman” by Tiverylucky (Image courtesy of FreeDigitalPhotos.net)

      The eyes are the windows of the soul. Nothing attracts a man other than beautiful eyes, pair of blue, hazel or brown eyes are actually the killer, provides calm, comfort and warmth to the males. Contrary to popular belief, it is not the chest or bust as the number one female part that men find most attractive but the eyes. According to Cosmopolitan, men ranked the eyes as the top body part because no matter how different the taste can be—about hair, chest butt, legs, feet—every man can be disarmed with a sexy glance. The eyes are aid to be the window of the soul. The lyrics of the monster hit “For the First Time” by Kenny Loggins captures the importance of women’s eyes for men who fall in time on the first encounter:

“For The First Time”

Are those your eyes, is that your smile
I’ve been lookin at you forever
But I never saw you before
Are these your hands holdin’ mine
Now I wonder how I could of been so blind

For the first time I am looking in your eyes
For the first time I’m seein’ who you are
I can’t believe how much I see
When you’re lookin back at me
Now I understand why love is…
Love is… for the first time..

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