The Latent Message of Bruno Mars’ “Versace on the Floor”

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“Versace on the Floor” 
By: Bruno Mars
shooting stars love GIF
Let’s take our time tonight, girl
Above us all the stars are watchin’
There’s no place I’d rather be in this world
Your eyes are where I’m lost in
Underneath the chandelier
We’re dancin’ all alone
There’s no reason to hide
What we’re feelin’ inside
Right now
chandelier GIF
So baby let’s just turn down the lights
And close the door
Ooh I love that dress
But you won’t need it anymore
No you won’t need it no more
Let’s just kiss ’til we’re naked, baby
ryan gosling kiss GIF
Versace on the floor
Ooh take it off for me, for me, for me, for me now, girl
Versace on the floor
Ooh take it off for me, for me, for me, for me now, girl, mmm
I unzip the back to watch it fall
While I kiss your neck and shoulders
No don’t be afraid to show it all
I’ll be right here ready to hold you
Girl you[1]
Love can mean different things to different people. There are different types of love. It can be based on eros or erotic and sexual love, filia, or fraternal love, and agape or self-giving and selfless love.
couple-goal-3240647_640
But the mega-hit song “Versace on the Floor” of Bruno Mars is suggesting something that cannot simply be categorized into any of the above classical classifications of love. I think his song is suggesting a different type of love that is more than just an erotic love. This is the type of love that is emerging in our current technological and globalized age. It’s what the sociologist Anthony Giddens calls as “confluent love.”
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The lyrics of the song seems to suggest this kind of love that emphasizes the contingent bliss of being together in the dancing floor underneath the chandelier–that the lovers just enjoy the moment, no worries about rules, morality or commitment to enter into marriage: “Let’s just kiss ’til we’re naked, baby”
What is Confluent Love?

Confluent love is the most popular type of union in today’s globalizing world that is characterized by flows, flexibility, and “liquidity” of information and migration of people around the globe. The current postmodern society prefers anything contingent or passing, or relationships without lasting or long-term commitment. Confluent love flourishes in this type of environment. It is, therefore, unsurprising to see divorce, annulment, and legal separation, cohabitation, and marital infidelity increasing in today’s global society.

Unlike romantic love, confluent love has no commitment to last until death or to enter into marriage. It is passing and it is good while it lasts for partners.

couple-hug-kissing-18397

Confluent love is a type of romantic relationship which is attuned to the present postmodern times. In his book, “The Transformation of Intimacy: Sexuality, Love and Eroticism in Modern Societies,” the British sociologist Anthony Giddens (1992) describes confluent love as a type of love which is based on pure relationship. And pure relationship is a “social relation…entered into for its own sake; and which is continued only in so far as it is thought by both parties to deliver enough satisfaction for each individual to stay within it” (Cornville & Rogers, 1998, p. 97).

‘Unlike romantic love, confluent love is not necessarily exclusive. What holds the pure relationship together is the acceptance on the part of each partner, ‘until further notice’, that each gains sufficient benefit from the relation to make its continuance worthwhile (Giddens, 2011). Romantic love is a type of relationship which is often viewed as ‘forever after’ monogamous love. This type of love prepares people for the lifelong commitment of marital love after courtship and engagement.

Confluent love is different from romantic or marital love. In consensual love, the partners agree to have sexual relations with others whom they have no intention of marrying or, if they marry, do not necessarily see the marriage as having permanence (Kendal, 2014). The essence of confluent love is its contingency. It is not a “till-death-do-us-part” kind of relationship. It lasts as long as the lovers find the relationship mutually fulfilling. Thus, a one-night stand, a regular orgy of couples, or a temporary live-in arrangement or cohabitation with no intention of marrying, are some expressions of confluent love.

gay-lingerie-sex-413792
Confluent love is now becoming popular to millennials and post-millennials. On the one hand, the millennials are those who belong to Generation Y or the generational demographic cohort following Generation X. There are no exact dates for when this cohort starts or ends. But many demographers typically use the early 1980s as starting birth years and the mid-1990s to early 2000s as ending birth years for people to be called millennials.
The post-millennials, on the other hand, are those who are born from the early 2000s up to the present.
ethics-947567_640
The emergence of confluent today is a great challenge to different churches and religions that believe that love and sex are sacred and must be guarded by the rules of ethics and morality.
Photo credit: Pixabay.com, Pexels.com
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The Latent Message of Bruno Mars’ “Versace on the Floor”

bruno-mars-702287_640
“Versace on the Floor” 
By: Bruno Mars
shooting stars love GIF
Let’s take our time tonight, girl
Above us all the stars are watchin’
There’s no place I’d rather be in this world
Your eyes are where I’m lost in
Underneath the chandelier
We’re dancin’ all alone
There’s no reason to hide
What we’re feelin’ inside
Right now
chandelier GIF
So baby let’s just turn down the lights
And close the door
Ooh I love that dress
But you won’t need it anymore
No you won’t need it no more
Let’s just kiss ’til we’re naked, baby
ryan gosling kiss GIF
Versace on the floor
Ooh take it off for me, for me, for me, for me now, girl
Versace on the floor
Ooh take it off for me, for me, for me, for me now, girl, mmm
I unzip the back to watch it fall
While I kiss your neck and shoulders
No don’t be afraid to show it all
I’ll be right here ready to hold you
Girl you[1]
Love can mean different things to different people. There are different types of love. It can be  based on eros or erotic and sexual love, filia, or fraternal love, and agape or self-giving and selfless love.
couple-goal-3240647_640
But the mega hit song “Versace on the Floor” of Bruno Mars  is suggesting something that cannot simply be categorized into any of the above classical classification of love. I think his song is suggesting of a different type of love that is more than just erotic love. This is the type of love that is emerging in our current technological and globalized age. It’s what the sociologist Anthony Giddens calls as “confluent love.”
in-love-3413497_640
The lyrics of the song seems to suggest this kind of love that emphasizes the contingent bliss of being together in the dancing floor underneath the chandelier–that the lovers just enjoy the moment, no worries about rules, morality or commitment to enter into marriage: “Let’s just kiss ’til we’re naked, baby”
What is Confluent Love?

Confluent love is the most popular type of  union in  today’s globalizing world that is characterized by flows, flexibility, and “liquidity” of information and migration of people around the globe. The current postmodern society prefers anything contingent or passing, or relationships without lasting or long-term commitment. Confluent love flourishes in this type of environment. It is, therefore, unsurprising to see divorce, annulment, and legal separation, cohabitation, and marital infidelity increasing in today’s global society.

Unlike romantic love, confluent love has no commitment to last until death or to enter into marriage. It is passing and it is good while it lasts for partners.

couple-hug-kissing-18397

Confluent love is a type of romantic relationship which is attuned to the present postmodern times. In his book, “The Transformation of Intimacy: Sexuality, Love and Eroticism in Modern Societies,” the British sociologist Anthony Giddens (1992) describes confluent love as a type of love which is based on pure relationship. And  pure relationship is a “social relation…entered into for its own sake; and which is continued only in so far as it is thought by both parties to deliver enough satisfaction for each individual to stay within it” (Cornville & Rogers, 1998, p. 97).

‘Unlike romantic love, confluent love is not necessarily exclusive. What holds the pure relationship together is the acceptance on the part of each partner, ‘until further notice’, that each gains sufficient benefit from the relation to make its continuance worthwhile (Giddens, 2011). Romantic love is a type of relationship which is often viewed as ‘forever after’ monogamous love. This type of love prepares people for the lifelong commitment of marital love after courtship and engagement.

erotic-lingerie-nude-597200

Confluent love is different from romantic or marital love. In consensual love, the partners agree to have sexual relations with others whom they have no intention of marrying or, if they marry, do not necessarily see the marriage as having permanence (Kendal, 2014). The essence of confluent love is its contingency. It is not a “till-death-do-us-part” kind of relationship. It lasts as long as the lovers find the relationship mutually fulfilling. Thus, a one-night stand, a regular orgy of couples, or a temporary live-in arrangement or cohabitation with no intention of marrying, are some expressions of confluent love.

gay-lingerie-sex-413792
Confluent love is now becoming popular to millennials and post-millennials. On the one hand, the millennials  are those who belong to Generation Y or the generational demographic cohort following Generation X. There are no exact dates for when this cohort starts or ends. But many demographers typically use the early 1980s as starting birth years and the mid-1990s to early 2000s as ending birth years for people to be called millennials.
The post-millennials, on the other hand, are those who are born from the early 2000s up to the present.
ethics-947567_640
The emergence of confluent today is a great challenge to different churches and religions that believe that love and sex are sacred and must be guarded by the rules of ethics and morality.
Photo credit: Pixabay.com, Pexels.com
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The Hidden Message of Bruno Mars’ “Versace on the Floor”

bruno-mars-702287_640
“Versace on the Floor” 
By: Bruno Mars
shooting stars love GIF
Let’s take our time tonight, girl
Above us all the stars are watchin’
There’s no place I’d rather be in this world
Your eyes are where I’m lost in
Underneath the chandelier
We’re dancin’ all alone
There’s no reason to hide
What we’re feelin’ inside
Right now
chandelier GIF
So baby let’s just turn down the lights
And close the door
Ooh I love that dress
But you won’t need it anymore
No you won’t need it no more
Let’s just kiss ’til we’re naked, baby
ryan gosling kiss GIF
Versace on the floor
Ooh take it off for me, for me, for me, for me now, girl
Versace on the floor
Ooh take it off for me, for me, for me, for me now, girl, mmm
I unzip the back to watch it fall
While I kiss your neck and shoulders
No don’t be afraid to show it all
I’ll be right here ready to hold you
Girl you[1]
Love can mean different things to different people. There are different types of love. It can be  based on eros or erotic and sexual love, filia, or fraternal love, and agape or self-giving and selfless love.
couple-goal-3240647_640
But the mega hit song “Versace on the Floor” of Bruno Mars  is suggesting something that cannot simply be categorized into any of the above classical classification of love. I think his song is suggesting of a different type of love that is more than just erotic love. This is the type of love that is emerging in our current technological and globalized age. It’s what the sociologist Anthony Giddens calls as “confluent love.”
in-love-3413497_640
The lyrics of the song seems to suggest this kind of love that emphasizes the contingent bliss of being together in the dancing floor underneath the chandelier–that the lovers just enjoy the moment, no worries about rules, morality or commitment to enter into marriage: “Let’s just kiss ’til we’re naked, baby”
What is Confluent Love?

Confluent love is the most popular type of  union in  today’s globalizing world that is characterized by flows, flexibility, and “liquidity” of information and migration of people around the globe. The current postmodern society prefers anything contingent or passing, or relationships without lasting or long-term commitment. Confluent love flourishes in this type of environment. It is, therefore, unsurprising to see divorce, annulment, and legal separation, cohabitation, and marital infidelity increasing in today’s global society.

Unlike romantic love, confluent love has no commitment to last until death or to enter into marriage. It is passing and it is good while it lasts for partners.

couple-hug-kissing-18397

Confluent love is a type of romantic relationship which is attuned to the present postmodern times. In his book, “The Transformation of Intimacy: Sexuality, Love and Eroticism in Modern Societies,” the British sociologist Anthony Giddens (1992) describes confluent love as a type of love which is based on pure relationship. And  pure relationship is a “social relation…entered into for its own sake; and which is continued only in so far as it is thought by both parties to deliver enough satisfaction for each individual to stay within it” (Cornville & Rogers, 1998, p. 97).

‘Unlike romantic love, confluent love is not necessarily exclusive. What holds the pure relationship together is the acceptance on the part of each partner, ‘until further notice’, that each gains sufficient benefit from the relation to make its continuance worthwhile (Giddens, 2011). Romantic love is a type of relationship which is often viewed as ‘forever after’ monogamous love. This type of love prepares people for the lifelong commitment of marital love after courtship and engagement.

erotic-lingerie-nude-597200

Confluent love is different from romantic or marital love. In consensual love, the partners agree to have sexual relations with others whom they have no intention of marrying or, if they marry, do not necessarily see the marriage as having permanence (Kendal, 2014). The essence of confluent love is its contingency. It is not a “till-death-do-us-part” kind of relationship. It lasts as long as the lovers find the relationship mutually fulfilling. Thus, a one-night stand, a regular orgy of couples, or a temporary live-in arrangement or cohabitation with no intention of marrying, are some expressions of confluent love.

gay-lingerie-sex-413792
Confluent love is now becoming popular to millennials and post-millennials. On the one hand, the millennials  are those who belong to Generation Y or the generational demographic cohort following Generation X. There are no exact dates for when this cohort starts or ends. But many demographers typically use the early 1980s as starting birth years and the mid-1990s to early 2000s as ending birth years for people to be called millennials.
The post-millennials, on the other hand, are those who are born from the early 2000s up to the present.
ethics-947567_640
The emergence of confluent today is a great challenge to different churches and religions that believe that love and sex are sacred and must be guarded by the rules of ethics and morality.
Photo credit: Pixabay.com, Pexels.com
Reference
[1] Versace on the Floor lyrics. Retrieved from https://www.google.com.ph/search?q=bruno+mars+versace+on+the+floor+lyrics&rlz=1C1CHWL_enPH748PH748&oq=Bruno+mars+versace+on+the+floor&aqs=chrome.0.0j69i57j0l4.13317j0j7&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8.
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What is Confluent Love?

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Confluent love has no commitment or intention to enter into marriage. It is passing and it is good while it lasts.

“It was three years ago when I became friends with a guy I met through a mutual friend. It was hard not to like him. He was sweet, charming and thoughtful. He became the friend I would call when I couldn’t sleep at three in the morning. I woke up one morning and realized I couldn’t imagine my life without him.

I had no illusions about the relationship because I knew he had a girlfriend from the start. I knew I was special to him, but did he love me? I was much too afraid to know the answer. I just held on to what we had, just happy to be with him, knowing deep in my heart that it wouldn’t last and yet hoping against hope that it would.

And then one day he told me his girlfriend was pregnant. I felt like someone had put a knife through my heart and twisted it in really deep. I knew at that moment that I had to let him go. I didn’t want him to see that the happiest day of his life was the saddest day of mine. But though I was slowly dying inside, a part of me
was happy because I knew he was happy. Walking away from him was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do but I never looked back, afraid that if I did I wouldn’t have the strength to let him go.

It’s been a year now since we last spoke. Even though we made a vow to stay good friends, there was also an unspoken understanding between us that I needed time away from him to give me a chance to heal. There are days when I still miss him badly and I wonder if I can ever really let him go. I know one day I will love again. But for now I just take it one day at a time knowing that if I make it through the day, then tomorrow will be easier” (The happiest and saddest day, By Joe d’Mango).

Sincerely,

Gabrielle

What is Confluent Love?

Confluent love is a type of romantic relationship which is attuned to the present postmodern times. In his book, “The Transformation of Intimacy: Sexuality, Love and Eroticism in Modern Societies,” the British sociologist Anthony Giddens (1992) describes confluent love as a type of love which is based on pure relationship. And  pure relationship is a “social relation…entered into for its own sake; and which is continued only in so far as it is thought by both parties to deliver enough satisfaction for each individual to stay within it” (Cornville & Rogers, 1998, p. 97). ‘Unlike romantic love, confluent love is not necessarily monogamous, in the sense of sexual exclusiveness. What holds the pure relationship together is the acceptance on the part of each partner, ‘until further notice’, that each gains sufficient benefit from the relation to make its continuance worthwhile (Giddens, 2011). Romantic love is a type of relationship which is often viewed as ‘forever after’ monogamous love. This type of love prepares people for the lifelong commitment of marital love after courtship and engagement.

Confluent love is different from romantic or marital love. In consensual love, the partners agree to have sexual relations with others whom they have no intention of marrying or, if they marry, do not necessarily see the marriage as having permanence (Kendal, 2014). The essence of confluent love is its contingency. It is not a “till-death-do-us-part” kind of relationship. It lasts as long as the lovers find the relationship mutually fulfilling. Thus, a one-night stand, a regular orgy of couples, or a temporary live-in arrangement or cohabitation with no intention of marrying, are some expressions of confluent love. Furthermore, confluent love, unlike romantic love, is not always monogamous. Sometimes it allows polygamous, bisexual or homosexual relationship. In this sense, confluent love does not conform to the criteria of true love as defined by the Bible and Church teachings. It has no religious dimension. It ends when both or all parties involved feel that the relationship is no longer working and satisfying. “The emergent morality of confluent love recognizes the rights of individual to happiness and appropriateness of ending relationships that are no longer experienced as fulfilling” (Goodwin & Cramer, 2009, p. 48). This emerging concept of love and commitment, facilitated by the liquidity of the world by the process of globalization and secularization, contravenes the religious understanding of marital love as sacred and a lifetime commitment.