Looks and Personal Character in Romantic Love
It’s not true that one’s character is shown on one’s face. If it’s angelic and beautiful, then he or she is probably Mr. or Ms. Right or one’s long-lost soul mate or destined partner in life!
Social science research has shown that there is no dependable association between facial features and personality traits. A person may look meek, soft-spoken, wholesome, and with sympathetic eyes, but may turn out to be abusive, violent and indecent in real life after a long acquaintance. Thus, a person cannot immediately identify his or her right partner in life based solely on facial or physical features during the first encounter or first date despite the strong feeling of romantic attraction or “love at first sight”.
Moreover, a person who is infatuated is usually blinded with romantic passion or intense feeling of attraction for his or her partner that he or she tends to neglect knowing his or her true character and personality. Just enjoying the current bliss of falling in love without a serious effort to know the real character of one’s partner is a dangerous attitude, especially if the person intends to find his or her true love and enter into marriage. Relying merely on the attractive looks of one’s partner and intense romantic feeling for him or her can be deceiving.
The Real Person is Revealed after the Wedding
Many marriage counselors would say that people in love could not really know the real person or character of their partners unless they live together constantly in a conjugal home for at least five years in marriage. Knowing the real person of one’s romantic partner requires time, effort, and scientific strategies to know the real person behind the smiling and loving face!
Young people are prone to falling in love based on looks and physical appearance. But older people usually look for substance, personality, and, above-all, financial security their partners can offer in life. To avoid or minimize blunders in courtship, always remember that “Things are not what they seem!” There is more that meets the eye!
Agape as the Highest Form of Love
There are basically 3 kinds of love: Erotic love, which is basically sexual and physical in nature; filial love, which is a non-erotic love and based on spiritual love as bothers or sisters; and agape, the highest form of love–the self-giving love.
For Christians, love is more than physical looks and personal traits. Agape is the type love Christ has done for us. Christian love is motivated for the desire to serve the Lord through one’s partner in life. It does not hesitate to sacrifice and to die for the other!
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